Why Real Change Feels So Hard – And What To Do About It
- GwynethEL
- 6 days ago
- 3 min read
Change.
We say we want it. We know we need it.
But when it comes to actually making it happen?
That’s where things get tricky.
If you have ever felt stuck in a job that drains you, overlooked for opportunities you know you could excel in, or held back from going after something more, you are not alone. And it’s not because you’re lazy or unmotivated. It’s because your brain is wired to keep you in the familiar, even when the familiar is quietly wearing you down.
It’s because change is hardwired to be hard.
The Brain Is Wired for Safety, Not Success
Our brains are incredible. But they haven’t evolved much in the last 200,000 years. At their core they are still focused on one main job: keeping us safe.
This means anything new, uncertain, or unfamiliar is automatically perceived as a potential threat, even if it’s something we consciously want.
On a physiological level, real change requires energy - a lot of it. The prefrontal cortex (the part of the brain responsible for decision-making and new behaviour) uses significantly more energy than the well-worn neural pathways of habit and routine. So even when we try to change, our brain nudges us back to the familiar.
And that is how survival mode becomes our default.
The “Uncomfortable Comfort Zone”
It sounds like a contradiction, but many people live in what I call the uncomfortable comfort zone. It’s the space where you’re not happy, not fulfilled, not thriving, but you’re used to it. It feels safer to stay put than to risk the unknown.
Maybe you’ve said to yourself:
“I’ll wait until I feel more confident.”
“Now is just not the right time.”
“What if I fail?”
These are not just thoughts. They’re protective mechanisms. Your brain is doing its job, but its job is not the same as your purpose.
How to Break Free and Create Real Change
My role isn’t to push you into risk or hustle. It’s to help you safely rewire the way you think, respond, and lead, so that you can move forward with clarity, courage, and energy. We do this through a combination of emotional intelligence, neuroscience-backed tools, and real-world strategy.
You Don’t Have to Stay Stuck
You deserve more than just surviving day to day. You deserve a life, career, or indeed business that aligns with who you really are, and where you want to go.
Change will always require energy. But with the right support and strategy, it doesn’t have to feel overwhelming.
It can feel powerful. Liberating. Even exhilarating.
So if you’re ready to step out of your uncomfortable comfort zone and into something greater, I’m here to walk that path with you, because change doesn’t happen by accident. It starts with intention and the right tools.
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